I Got Played

Anyone who knows my son, or has read this blog knows he can get into a little trouble.

Three days of school, and he's ran into a few problems.

First let me say that I know my son can be trouble. He gets punished. Time outs, toys taken away, a spanking here and there. Overall I do not think we (Bill and I) are push overs.

We explain the rules and the consequences of breaking the rules to Colby. We make sure he understands, and then we follow thru when the rules are broken.

He knows that if he gets in trouble at school, he will get in trouble at home.

Ok now with that said let me get into the story.

At Colby's school all the children had to go over the rules of the playground with the teacher and then their parents. The child had to sign the paper, and the parents had to sign the paper saying that they had gone over the rules with their child.

One of the rules is: The teacher has to be able to see you. If you can see the teacher, then the teacher can see you. (This is a direct quote from the piece of paper we signed).

Colby and some other kids were playing on the playground, when he decided he wanted to go play in the woods. So him, and about 5 other kindergartens left the playground area and went into the woods. The teacher saw them walking out of the woods, and made them walk the playground. (This is where they have to walk the perimeter of the playground in a singe file with their arms folded. They still get their exercise, and they get in trouble.)

When Colby got home from school I asked him how his day was, and he hung his head down, and said I'm grounded. I'm going to my room. I got in trouble, and now I have to sit on my bed.

He was so pathetic.

I asked him to tell me how he got in trouble, and he told me how he wanted to go play in the woods.

He said: We were playing on the playground, and I saw the woods, and I wanted to go play. Some other kids went with me. They just wanted to go. I didn't tell them too. Then the teacher saw us and we got in trouble so I'm going to my room. But I don't know why I got in trouble, because I could see her the whole time, so she could see me. That's what you said, if I can see her then she can see me. So I shouldn't have got in trouble.

So, here I am totally understanding his reasoning. I told him, his dad told him, and his teacher said if you can see me I can see you. Yet, he got in trouble. Plus, he was following the consequences and putting himself in time out. I folded.

I didn't follow thru. I let him off with a stern warning. I didn't make him go to his room, but let him play.

When I told some of the kids I work with, and my husband what happened, they all said the same thing "You got played"

I know I did, but he was sad, and truly sorry, and now he knows he can't play in the woods.